Frequently Asked Questions

Do I have to talk about my sex life or orgasms in detail in front of other women?

No. You are always in control of what you share.
Some people speak more, some less, and that’s all welcome. You will never be pressured to disclose graphic details or personal sexual experiences. Many women find that simply hearing others talk—without sharing much themselves at first—is incredibly relieving.

Will anyone be touching me, watching me masturbate, or doing anything sexual in the group?

Absolutely not. There is no sexual touch, no nudity, no massage, no masturbation, and no one watching you do anything with your body—ever. This is a therapy group, not a sex workshop or retreat. All physical practices are done fully clothed and are nonsexual.

Then what do we actually do in the sessions?

Each session includes:

• Brief instruction on how to remember/interpret your dreams, as well as learn to lucid dream,  grounded in neuroscience and sexual health research
  
  

• Guided mindfulness or body-awareness exercises
  
  

• Somatic (body-based) therapy practices
  
  

• Reflection and optional discussion
  
  

• Practical tools to take home
  
  

Think of this as learning how your nervous system works, and rewiring your brain for pleasure.

What is somatic therapy, exactly?

Somatic therapy focuses on how your nervous system, muscles, breath, and attention shape your experience—often outside conscious awareness.

In this group, that means learning skills like:

• Noticing sensation without judgment
  
  

• Relaxing protective muscle patterns (including the pelvic floor)
  
  

• Increasing body safety and awareness
  
  

• Reconnecting to pleasure signals that may have been muted over time
  
  

It is learning how to feel again, safely. You will be re-activating neural pathways that may be dormant or have shut down to protect you: but the group will teach your body how to feel safe again.

When does sexual touch or masturbation come in?

Only on your own, at home, if and when you choose.
The group provides education, tools, and guidance so that when you’re by yourself—or with a partner—you can explore touch and pleasure in ways that feel informed, safe, and empowering.

Nothing sexual happens in the group space.

What if I feel awkward, embarrassed, or anxious at first?

That is completely normal—and expected.
Many women arrive feeling nervous, skeptical, or even afraid they’ll be “the weird one.” Almost universally, that anxiety softens once the group begins and it becomes clear how professional, grounded, and non-sexual the space is.

You don’t need to be confident to belong here. You just need to show up.

Is this group appropriate if I come from a religious or sexually restrictive background?

Yes. This group is absolutely welcoming of women from restrictive, shame-based, or religious backgrounds in mind. We move slowly, respectfully, and with a strong emphasis on consent, safety, and nervous-system pacing. Nothing here will violate your values or push you faster than your system is ready to go.

What if I’ve “tried everything” already and nothing worked?

Many women in this group have tried therapy, vibrators, mindfulness, and medical approaches without success. This work is different because it addresses what is going on with you unconsciously, by bringing it to consciousness via dreamwork and somatic therapy in a safe, therapeutic group space. You are not broken—and you are not a lost cause.

Is what I share confidential?

Yes. Confidentiality is a core group agreement. What is shared in the group stays in the group.

What if I realize this group isn’t right for me?

You’re always free to check in with the facilitator privately. Your autonomy matters. That said, many women who feel unsure at first find that staying through the initial discomfort is where the real healing begins.